Swinging Terminology

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Swinging Terminology

Swinging is a title that covers many different kinds of sexual activity

It is a lot easier to understand the swinging lifestyle if you are aware of it's terminology

A swinger is a person who has sex with someone other that their regular partner, or single people who have recreational sex with others.

This list includes terms used in the Fetish and BDSM scene as well as in the Gay and Lesbian community.

Here are a selection of the terms with their definitions:

  • AC/DC
  • Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
  • ADULT
  • Euphemism for pornographic.
  • ANAL
  • Anal intercourse between a man and a woman or 2 men; Greek; Greek Culture.
  • ARTS
  • Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
  • B&D
  • Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
  • BAREBACK
  • Having sex without using a condom
  • BBW
  • Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.
  • BEAR
  • A large male homo sexual, often very hairy.
  • BI
  • Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
  • BI-CURIOUS
  • A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
  • BIZARRE
  • Unusual sexual desires
  • BONDAGE
  • A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. the person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
  • BUKAKKE
  • A fetish where a girl, or girls, occasionally a guy, lies naked and lets, or helps guys masturbate and ejaculate over their naked bodies.
  • BULL
  • Male who is used by couples to impregnate the female
  • CAN ACCOMMODATE
  • Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
  • CAN TRAVEL
  • Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
  • CANING
  • A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
  • CHEATING
  • Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
  • CIM
  • Cum in Mouth
  • CIP
  • Cum in Pussy
  • CLEAN
  • Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
  • CLEANUP
  • A man or woman licking the cum out of or off a girl, or off of a mans penis after sex.
  • CLOSED DOOR or CLOSED SWINGING
  • Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. the rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.
  • CLOSET SWINGER
  • A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
  • COUGAR
  • An older woman who dates young men (cubs)
  • COUPLE
  • In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
  • CREAMPIE
  • A man cumming in a womans pussy.
  • CUB or CUBBIE
  • A young male who dates older women (Cougars)
  • CUCKOLD
  • A man whose wife (hot wife) dates and has sex with other men, either with or without his knowledge.
  • CULTURE
  • Euphemism for Fetish, Arts.
  • FRENCH CULTURE:
  • Oral sex
  • GREEK CULTURE:
  • Anal sex
  • ROMAN CULTURE:
  • Sexual orgies
  • SWEDISH CULTURE:
  • Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
  • CUNNILINGUS
  • Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
  • DILDO
  • An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic sometimes wood or glass, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
  • DIRECTOR
  • the term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
  • DISCIPLINE
  • A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
  • DISCREET OR DISCRETION.
  • Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
  • DOCILE
  • Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
  • DOMESTIC TRAINING
  • Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
  • DOMINANT
  • A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
  • EXHIBITIONIST
  • A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
  • FELLATIO
  • Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
  • FETISH
  • Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
  • FLAGELLATION
  • Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
  • FUN AND GAMES
  • Euphemism for sexual activity.
  • GANG BANG
  • Where a girl chooses to have sex with several men at the same time.
  • GAY
  • A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
  • GBM
  • Gay Black Male
  • GENEROUS
  • Refers to money for sex.
  • GREEDY GIRL
  • A woman who enjoys sex with several men at the same time in a gang bang situation.
  • GROUP ROOM
  • Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
  • GROUP SEX
  • Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
  • GWM
  • Gay White Male
  • HARD CORE
  • A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
  • HARD SWINGING
  • (see HARD CORE)
  • HEAD
  • Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
  • HEDONIST
  • Someone who lives for pleasure. - See Dirty-david ;)
  • HETEROSEXUAL
  • Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
  • HOMOSEXUAL
  • Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY or Lesbian)
  • HORNY.
  • Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure
  • HOT WIFE
  • A wife who has sex with other men then returns home to describe the events to her husband during sex.
  • HUNG
  • Refers to a man with a large penis.
  • HWP
  • Height-weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
  • INDOOR SPORTS
  • Swinging activities in general.
  • INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
  • Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
  • IRL
  • In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
  • ISO
  • In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
  • LEAthER
  • A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather, silk, rubber, latex garments.
  • LESBIAN
  • A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
  • Ltr
  • Long Term Relationship
  • MARITAL AIDS
  • Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
  • MASOCHISM
  • Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
  • MASTER/SLAVE
  • Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
  • MATROOM
  • Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
  • MEET FOR PLEASURE
  • Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity
  • MENAGE A" TROIS
  • three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD)
  • MILF
  • Mother I Like to Fuck, used by young men to describe attractive older women, often the mothers of their friends.
  • MORESOMES
  • More than three people in a swinging interaction.
  • MBC
  • Married Black Couple
  • MBiC
  • Married Bisexual Couple
  • Multiple Donations
  • Several men ejaculate into or onto another person.
  • MWC
  • Married White Couple
  • NEWCOMERS
  • New people in swinging; First-timers
  • NONSMOKER
  • Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
  • N.S.A.
  • No Strings attached.
  • OPEN SWINGING
  • A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party
  • ORGY
  • Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.
  • PARTY
  • Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
  • PARTY CLOTHES
  • Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. the latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
  • PASSIVE
  • Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
  • PHOTO
  • Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
  • PHOTOGRAPHY
  • Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
  • PRO
  • Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
  • PUMA
  • A woman in her early 20's who dates younger men (cubs or cubbies)
  • RECREATIONAL SWINGER
  • A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.
  • RESTRAINT
  • Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
  • ROMAN
  • Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)
  • RUBBER
  • Condom means of contraception;
    sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with BDSM.
  • SAFE
  • Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.
  • S.A.E.
  • Self-addressed stamped envelope.
  • SBF
  • Single Black Female
  • SBiF
  • Single Bisexual Female
  • SBM
  • Single Black Male
  • S&M
  • Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
  • SINGLE
  • A swinger without a partner, single or married.
  • SOCIAL
  • A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. there is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
  • SOCIAL SWING CLUB
  • A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. they may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
  • SOFT SWINGING
  • the term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. the first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
  • SPITROAST
  • A girl giving oral sex to one man and vaginal sex with another at the same time.
  • SRS
  • Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
  • Std or Sti
  • Sexually transmitted Disease (sexually transmitted Infection). A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
  • Str or Str8 or STRAIGHT
  • Any person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; or a person who into sex but not BDSM; or A person who does not use drugs.
  • Sugar Daddy
  • An older man who treats his younger female companion to everything. (may include meals, clubbing, holidays, cars, homes)
  • Sugar Mummy, Sugar Momma
  • A Cougar who treats their cub to everything. (may include meals, clubbing, holidays, cars, homes)
  • SWAPPING
  • Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
  • SWF
  • Single White Female
  • SWING MAGAZINE
  • A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community
  • SWINGING
  • Social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.
  • SWINGING LIFESTYLE
  • Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
  • SWINGING MARRIAGE
  • Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
  • SWM
  • Single White Male
  • SUBMISSIVE
  • (see PASSIVE)
  • THREESOME
  • three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a" trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.
  • TICKET
  • A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. the ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
  • TOYS
  • Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
  • TRAVEL
  • (see CAN TRAVEL)
  • TRIAD
  • Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
  • TRIOLISM
  • Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". this is a common but confusing usage (see trIAD)
  • TUBAL LIGATION
  • Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
  • TWINK
  • Young, attractive male homosexual
  • UTOPIAN SWINGER
  • A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
  • VASECTOMY
  • Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.
  • VERSATILE
  • Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
  • VIBRATOR
  • Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
  • VOLUPTUOUS
  • Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
  • VOYEUR
  • A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
  • VWE
  • Very Well Endowed - a very large male organ.
  • W/E
  • Well Endowed - applies to the male organ - the average size is about 6" long and about 5" in girth when erect. W/E is anything greater than this.